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7 Realizations About Being a New Mom

This past year as a new mom has been a whirlwind filled with exciting new memories, challenging experiences, and numerous life lessons. As I write about the “7 realizations about being a new mom,” I’m sitting in a salon getting a much needed pedicure and multitasking (as usual- haha!).

If you’re a mom, especially a working mom, you know how hard it is to do things you used to not think twice about – like run errands or schedule time for self-care or even write a blog. It has been way too long since I wrote a blog post, so here we go!

7 Realizations About Being a New Mom

  1. Self-Compassion is essential. I’ve heard people joke about “mom guilt”, but had no clue it was an actual thing until I had my son. Of course, I had a vast amount of joy, excitement, and happiness about my precious baby boy. However, the mom guilt was present too. It made me question whether I was spending enough time with him, reading enough, playing enough, going outside enough, socializing enough, and the list goes on. It was especially intense when I first went back to work. When I left my son in the nanny’s care to go to work, I felt guilty and when I took time off to be with him, I felt guilty about not working enough. It was quite the double bind! Over time, I learned to set boundaries with that guilt and have a good handle on it now, but it can definitely get the best of you if you let it.
  2. Have realistic expectations of yourself and others. The transition from a household of 2 to 3 is HUGE so it takes time to adjust. I love to have a clean and organized home, but after having a baby, I had to lower my expectations. Learning to accept my limitations and the fact that I couldn’t be everything to everyone all the time was not easy and I thank God for my husband’s active involvement! We quickly figured out that we needed to split up responsibilities, take shifts in the middle of the night, and pre plan meals for the week. We even decided to eat off of plastic plates for the first few months after he was born, LOL. One of the things that was helpful for me was to focus on all the things we WERE doing versus what we were not. After all, there’s only so much time in the day and it’s impossible to get everything done, especially if you value sleep as much as I do!
  3. Be present and enjoy the moment. As an entrepreneur managing 2 businesses (Bayview Therapeutic Services and K2 Visionaries), I used to think time flew, but add a baby on top of it and it really flies! Since I own my own businesses, it’s difficult for me to completely disconnect from work when I’m at home. In order for me to focus on work when I’m at work and focus on my son when I’m with him, I had to up the ante with my support network (nanny, babysitters, and family). It really does take a village! I constantly check myself to make sure I’m fully present so I can experience all of the amazing “firsts” with my son.
  4. Attaining balance is key. Notice I said attaining, not maintaining? The search for work/life balance has been an ongoing theme in my life. Since I’m super ambitious and love what I do for work, it makes it very difficult to stay in balance, especially after my bundle of joy arrived. I love spending time with my son, husband, family and friends as well. If one responsibility is overtaking the others, I take the necessary steps to reorganize and regain balance. I’ve learned that balance is not a stable thing and that both sides are always fluctuating.
  5. Prioritize your couple relationship. The first few months after our son was born, we were in “survival mode”. Since all of our energy was going toward our little one, alone time as a couple time was the last thing on our minds. Once we found our rhythm as new parents, we were able to realign our relationship as a priority. We found good babysitters for date nights and had fun creating new memories together as a couple and as a family. In my practice, I’ve worked with countless couples who neglected their relationship after having kids and years later they were in my office complaining of disconnection, unhappiness, and some even on the brink of divorce. Those stories motivate me to ensure I create time for my husband and to nurture our relationship.
  6. Self-care is a must. I’m in the profession of caring for others. Add a little person on top of that and my self-care can plummet to the bottom of the list. In order for me to be as effective as I need to be for my son, my family, and my clients, it’s VITAL that I schedule self-care. It’s amazing what a little dose of Florida sunshine or a walk outside can do for me and if I don’t make it to Pilates twice a week, I feel totally out of whack. When I really need a self-care splurge, a little retail therapy works wonders! Figure out what your self-care sweet spots are and make sure you schedule them. One of my friends became a Cultural Care Au Pair when she was trying to learn better English and the family that she was helping only employed her so the mom would have time to look after herself while my friend looked after the kids. She said that once she was there, the mom could practice self-care there was a visible change in her demeanour.
  7. Perfection doesn’t exist. There is a HUGE learning curve for first time parents. No matter how much I read and researched about being a new mom, I often wondered whether I was doing things the “right” way. I quickly learned through experience that the only right way is the one that works best for me, my child, and my family. This doesn’t mean don’t read and don’t prepare, it simply means to take your own spin on things and it’s ok if things don’t go by the book.

Since being a new mom, I’ve experienced the most profound love for another human being, which no words could describe. I’ve realized that being a new mom is the MOST challenging, yet MOST rewarding job ever. I’ve always had respect for mothers and parents in general, but that respect and admiration has increased 10 fold. I’m so grateful to call myself a mom and feel honored to be amongst this amazing group of women.

For women who are thinking about having children and being a new mom, I hope this inspires you. For all the mothers out there, I wish you a warm and happy (belated) Mother’s Day. Each day, each of you are truly inspirational in your own way!


Dr-Kate-Campbell Being a New Mom

Kate Campbell, PhD, the author of “7 Realizations About Being a New Mom,” is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who is passionate about helping people develop more satisfying and fulfilling relationships. She owner of Bayview Therapeutic Services, a multidisciplinary private practice located in east Fort Lauderdale and co-owner of K2 Visionaries, a personal and professional development company for mental health professionals. “Dr. Kate” is a relationship expert who works with individuals, couples, adolescents, and families. She also works with expectant mothers and couples as well as new parents navigating the transition to parenthood.

Belly Up to the FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton

If you’re looking for a new spin on “Mom’s Night Out” or a clever and fun venue to host your next Boca baby shower, then we have the place for you: Belly up to the FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton!

Field of Flowers Boca Raton

Too cool right?

Field of Flowers Boca Raton has taken curating beautiful blooms to the next level. They’ve recently launched a DIY FlowerBar as a chic new way to blend crafting fun with fresh flowers and friends…and wine.

Field of Flowers Boca Raton

FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton

An afternoon or evening at the FlowerBar results in gorgeous, hand-made custom arrangements. FlowerBar participants are set-up with everything that’s required to craft your own from floral shears, vases and flowers to specialty trimmings and a custom box to transport DIY creations home.

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FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton

While guests engage with a FlowerBar floral expert (ours was FABULOUS), you can learn how to place curly willows, calla lilies, hydrangea and spray roses like a pro.

As practical tips are shared—including the trend of cutting flower stems shorter, or how to mix and match blooms—guests can sip wine and champagne (or sparkling water) and nibble on elegant hors d’oeuvres.

Field of Flowers Boca Raton

Field of Flowers Boca Raton

The stylish Do-It-Yourself/Design-It-Yourself (DIY) FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton is intended for private parties, birthdays, baby and bridal showers, among other occasions, but it’s also a must for seasonal and other floral design classes.

FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton

The workstation setting enhances the already cheerful interior of Field of Flowers Boca Raton, where pops of color from exquisite fresh flower displays and walk-in coolers punctuate the bright, light-flooded space. You’ll also receive a tour of the facility during class.

FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton

MBMom Tip: Be sure to bring a sweater for the refrigerator portion of the tour!

FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton

The FlowerBar is composed of oversize island workstations topped with striated marble countertops. Comfy stool-like seating accommodates small or large parties, up to 16 participants at a time. Although you’ll probably want to stand up once you really get into the floral designing.

FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton

“Our FlowerBar instructors share techniques that professional florists use. Prepared flowers are staged in buckets for each guest as they’re led step-by-step through the process of positioning flowers,” says Alex Frost, Director of Business Development at Field of Flowers. “It’s an entertaining way to spend an afternoon.”

FlowerBar at Field of Flowers Boca Raton

We agree! And can’t wait to go back with our mom friends very soon.


About Field of Flowers 

Celebrating its 100-year anniversary, South Florida-based Field of Flowers is an industry pioneer at the forefront of retail innovation, and is hailed as a flower store model for having the highest sales per square foot in the industry. Growing, with $10 million in sales, Field of Flowers has significant expansion plans in the works that include upwards of 300 shops within five years. Now, the DIY FlowerBar in-store concept has positioned the retailer to further boost its brand reputation and following.

For more information on Field of Flowers and how customers can reserve a seat at the FlowerBar, visit: myflowerbar.comfieldofflowers.com.

Buy or Rent Baby Gear in Boca! Get What You Need for Kid Visitors at Show & Tell Consignments

It’s houseguest season! Which means you (or perhaps some lovely new grandparents you know) are probably prepping your home for several tiny visitors and you just realized you gave away your last high chair and pack & play. Because hey, you don’t need that stuff anymore! You have big kids. You said goodbye to diapers months ago. But now you’re thinking: Crap. I need to rent baby gear in Boca. Try Boca baby consignment!

Boca baby consignment

Whether you have an infant, toddler or elementary schooler (or all 3!) on their way from a far flung corner of the U.S., Show and Tell Consignments in east Boca has been working extremely hard to make this season brighter (and easier) for residents to host littles on a dime.

Rent Baby Gear in Boca at Show & Tell Consignments

Besides their already amazing regular purchase prices, you can now RENT baby gear in Boca from them. My in-laws did that in Maine for us one time, which was rather awesome, but now you can get what you need with ease at one store…for a steal! Done and done.

Boca baby consignment

Here’s how it works (Boca baby consignment): Simply purchase any gear item (strollers, high chairs, bassinets, pack & plays, etc.) at its normal retail price and then return it when you are done using it for 40% of your original payment back. It pretty much acts like a deposit system.

And if you decide to keep the item- not a problem! Rest assured, you’ve already gotten a great deal by simply purchasing your gear at a top children’s consignment store.

Boca baby consignment

Another great idea, especially if you’re considering visiting a colder climate or taking the kiddos skiing: Buy their heavy winter clothes and ski gear at Show & Tell Consignments.

Who wants to pay full price for something their kid is going to grow OUT of after this season? Not this Modern Boca Mom.

Boca baby consignment

Happy hosting!


Show & Tell Consignments is located at:
260 N Dixie Hwy
Boca Raton, FL 33432
561-391-1117
You can also LIKE them on Facebook for the latest images/prices for in-store inventory.

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